Why you gotta be so mean

Do you ever have one of those days where you’re ridiculously mean to yourself? I had one of those this week. My internal monologue sounding something like this “You’re stupid, you’re fat, you’re ugly, you will die alone surrounded by too many cats.”

And as I sat at home wallowing in these hurtful thoughts, I got a text from my friend Jess who saw a self-loathing tweet I had wrote. She wanted to know if I was okay and as I told her  about my crappy day and how crappy I was feeling about myself, she told me she had some stuff to send me. Into my inbox popped multiple empowerment links. As I read them and watched them, I realized these people were right. I need to stop being so mean to myself and instead start being grateful for me and what I have.

So I decided to make a genuine effort to be more grateful, which reminded me of a Pinterest idea I saw. The user used hot glue to write inspiring words on a mason jar. I quickly plugged in my hot glue gun and went to town, writing “live” and “love” on my jar…those felt like inspiring words to work towards. Then I painted the jar over in white and stuck a ribbon on to add some prettiness. Now I had the perfect jar to hold my gratitude.

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Every time something good happens to me or I feel grateful for someone I am going to write it down on a post-it note and stick it in the jar. Then when I have one of those moments where I’m incredibly mean to myself, I can read all the posts in the jar to remind myself why I’m not some ugly duckling with a zero IQ.

I am of course a realist who knows that I will not all of sudden be some really grateful Oprah-like person who is always happy and sees the silver lining…I think to be like Oprah you need her money. But this is a small step to make myself a little less mean and a bit more grateful.

Today I put my first post-it in the jar and it was easy to know what I was grateful for…the amazing person who inspired this idea.

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P.S. For you own empowerment check out these links. The kid is right, if we didn’t have Michael Jordan we wouldn’t have Space Jam and that would be TRAGIC! And a little T-Swift, which all my friends have been singing this week and makes me smile.